Sunday, April 14, 2019

Refreshing Relationships

Thinking about gardening –
which is all I can do at present. After two days in the 60’s this week, it snowed today in WI and our winds have had gale force. All while I’m eager to start tending earth, removing dead growth from last year, and replanting. Slowly my thoughts turn to human relationships - these also need tending, fertilizing and nurturing regularly.

How about yours  -  any relationships that need extra attention to freshen them up? Marriages often qualify  in this area. Maybe a day away from your routine? There’s something about a new setting that enables us to see and appreciate one another in a new way. Or maybe it’s time to reconnect with an adult child during a getaway for only the two of you or taking an elderly parent out for a memory-making excursion.

Re -late, the base word of relationships, means again and again connecting to keep your union strong. May you enjoy every positive aspect about this person and ignore the negatives which are part of the reality of humanness. Not one of us is perfect, I have only to look to myself to realize this! Yet God deems us all valuable.

 I wrote two books that can help hugely with marriage and other relationships. I poured my knowledge from thirty years of counseling couples and families into these books for men and women. In Man in Command I cover subjects that husbands and dads never learned about in high school or college and tackle tough topics like performance pressures, nurturing wives emotionally, dealing with pornography, all in short, easy to read 2-3 page chapters covering 52 subjects. These can benefit every man’s life. https://www.amazon.com/Man-Command-How-Great-Husband/dp/0979989590/ref=sr_1_fkmrnull_1?keywords=man+in+command+judith+rolfs&qid=1555297151&s=gateway&sr=8-1-fkmrnull


Women need reassurance and godly wisdom to live their best lives. In Loving Every Minute I cover 52 major topics that affect women giving practical methods to implement living joyfully, purposely. Subjects like avoiding depression, dealing with family conflict, keeping a playful spirit all in 2-3 page chapters, short enough to read during coffee break and discuss over the phone with a friend. https://www.amazon.com/Loving-Every-Minute-Laugh-Woman/dp/1521349134/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1555297244&sr=8-1-fkmrnull

 

 Habakkuk 2:2 "Write the vision and make it plain that those who run may read it..." It's my goal to inspire men and women to live fantastic lives for themselves and their families.
 


Judith Rolfs

Writer, Professional Counselor, Wife, Mom and Grandmom

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BOOK UPDATE:
My suspense novel Bullet in the Night, set in Lake Geneva, is read by a talented woman who brings the characters and emotion to life in a wondrous way. Even if you read the paperback you're going to love the audiobook.

Men, as well as women, have contacted me to say they enjoy rereading Directive 99, because it's so timely for today. I'm grateful to those who have taken  their precious time to send a review to amazon.
http://amzn.to/P4dKbh

SPEAKING:
I’ll be speaking at Christian Women's Connection Events May 13th at Waupaca at noon
May 14th at Marshfield 12:30 p.m.
May 15th at Wisconsin Rapids, WI 9:30 a.m.
Let me know if you'd like contact info.

I so appreciate your prayers for these events. Without the Holy Spirit’s anointing nothing of value happens. With it hearts and minds open and God can minister deeply.
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I’ve had fun re-reading my journals from 20 years ago. My fervor for God – loving Him and serving Him was just as intense then as it is today. And my desire to exalt him. If you don’t keep a journal I urge you to give it a try – even if you write a sentence or two ion your calendar. You’ll get a wider perspective on your daily living when you reread it months, years later.

Happy Almost Easter!

 
 
 
 
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Saturday, March 23, 2019

Beautiful Springtime


Come quickly beautiful springtime!  

Enjoying a few more weeks of vacation and writing time with my honey in Venice Florida before our exodus back to the Midwest. Can’t wait to get my garden-gloved hands into our black dirt to plant impatiens and watch our sturdy perennials miraculously break through the hardened, crusty ground. The very thought delights me. 

 I think back to the first time I marveled at the new life process that happens every spring. My soul was hard and crusty too. I rarely went to church and, when I did, I endured rather than enjoyed as I do now.

After fourteen years in Catholic schools, my “faith” was a routine, meaningless ritual. Nothing personal or vibrant about it. If asked, I’d label myself an agnostic.

Then, I attended a Christian retreat, a Cursillo, to have a getaway weekend with girlfriends who were my neighbors. Nothing huge spiritually happened to me there, but looking back I see it as a catalyst. When I came home I was curious about God and began reading Christian books and studied the Bible for the first time, especially the passages about the presence of the Holy Spirit in the world today.

I wish I had words to explain my transformation better! Study enabled me to know God, to experience Jesus and to interact with prayer, soul talk with God the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. For the first time, I knew for sure God was real and PERSONSAL, not a distant deity. 

Life with Him became exciting and more.  As an insecure child of alcoholic parents – I finally could live without fears and worry. The peace of God that passes understanding was mine (Philippians 4:7), and the joy – the joy of the Lord is my strength (Nehemiah 8:10) - lasts through whatever happens in my life. I am never alone. He is a real and present help in every circumstance.

Ever since, for fifty years now, I view spring as a beautiful symbol and a reminder. Living with personal connection to God is a beautiful gift to be celebrated all year long and just like spring, it’s there for each one of us.

MY WRITING UPDATE:
Soon after my return, I have eight speaking/book signing events in northern Wisconsin and Springfield, Illinois areas. I keep talking about retiring. Every time I think that I will stop working I get a delightful letter from a reader telling me how his or her life has been impacted by a message in one of my books. Plus, some of this writing work is just so much fun. I will be on a radio show April 15th Friday hosted by Andrea Boeshaar.

You see writing a novel is no longer enough – an author must be very active in getting the word out that the mystery novel is available. And seek reviews. Future readers rely on them before selecting books to purchase. 

If any of you dear readers would be kind enough to leave an honest review for any of my books you have already read, I would be extremely grateful. You’d be so kind to take ten minutes of your valuable time to do this on amazon by going to my book page and scrolling down to review. Thank you!!!

Things have changed so dramatically since my first print book was published in 1985 when my Tyndale publisher had a full-time publicist and team of marketing professionals and sales staff to get my books into national bookstores. The publicist set up my TV and radio appearances. Now we writers must do it all. I even make my own YouTube’s and video trailers. Fortunately, I do love to learn and I’ve met some delightful fellow authors traversing this new path of social media with me.

I have another fun mystery in the works for adults and one for children I only need the discipline and diligence necessary to complete them God willing.

My Star Bright Award goes to Joann McLuen in Ocala, Florida for starting her new book club– they’ll read one of my four mystery novels each month and use the Discussion Questions available for each novel. (Email me if you need a copy of the questions for any novel.)

Directive 99 continues to be my best-selling suspense novel, probably because the message is so timely for today. If you haven’t read it, you can download it on Kindle Unlimited if you’re a member and read it for free. Or order the print version of Directive 99 through amazon. Click here.

This lovely verse, Proverbs 3, 3-4 seems appropriate for today: “Let not mercy and truth forsake you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart, and so find favor and high esteem in the sight of God and man.” Truth and mercy each of us can write!

Happy Spring!!!

Tuesday, November 6, 2018

Today is the Day

Today is the day my friends. What a privilege we have in this amazing country of America to choose our leaders. If you haven't already done so please remember to vote. If you need a ride, call a friend or neighbor. 
I heard this slogan recently: Value your vote and vote your values. We all have a part to play in gifting our children and grandchildren with this precious government of the people, by the people and for the people.
Please join me in praying for godly men and women of integrity to be elected guardians of our precious country. May they legislate wisely for the good of every American.

Cumberland Falls in Tennessee.  
Our friend Becky took this picture. We enjoyed a special time with six other couples in Heather and Pat's huge, lovely mountain home in the Smoky Mountains last week. Fun, fellowship & prayer.

WRITING UPDATE:

Almost time to start Christmas shopping! May I suggest one of my Fantastic Family themed books for everyone on your list. You’ll find uplifting reading material for children and adults – kid’s fantasy books, devotionals, my murder Mysteries with a Message including my latest The Windemere AffairHere is the link to my amazon author page: 

My husband Wayne also has a super family book for Dads and Moms to use in family devotions Thoughts For Today, Words for Tomorrow. This is the link: https://www.amazon.com/Thoughts-Today-Words-Tomorrow-Wayne/dp/1722125322

Wednesday, October 17, 2018

  
A pleasant thought to ponder... we each have our own personal History Book With God. He writes through the events of our lives and we add content by our responses.

I’m recalling a chapter today of being in Door County last October after my husband Wayne’s open heart surgery when he was very fragile. Here we are today one year later with golf clubs and bicycles having lunch in Sister Bay with Dan and Stephanie who joined us. (David and his family come up next weekend.) How can I possibly describe the grateful praise spilling from every pore of my being when I see my man healthy and active?

I turn back in my History Book With God to other scary chapters - the safe birth of our fourth child despite medical complications, later the healing of our eighteen-year-old son whose life was given up on by his oncologist.



Other miracles – healings and seemingly impossible prayers answered -fill the pages. I think of our several businesses begun with wild ideas that prospered into reality. The burst of courage in countless situations at the moment it was most needed. I'm sure you can recall similar times.

Opportunities to watch God at work using me as an available counseling instrument in the emotional healing of other lives. Humbling chapters. The blessing of being an encouragement to others. We all like those chapters, don’t we? I know you have many of your own.

Sad chapters without happy endings have been written as well, but they don’t mar the Goodness evident within my History Book With God. His presence during times of pain has been just as real, His comfort as near as my skin, when our twenty-four-year-old grandson Drew died. 

Within the pages of my book are my daily conversations with the Supreme Creator Who is absolutely like none other – the King of Glory.  Sometimes my words are simply expressions of awe at His world, His people as in Jesus Time, 365 Love Notes of Wonder and Worship. Other times, I speak petitions for the needs of others because I’ve known, I’ve witnessed the transforming power of prayer. My History Book With God is filled with His interventions in apparently hopeless situations in response to fervent prayer.
  
Part of my current History With God is my new mystery novel
The Windemere Affair https://amzn.to/2pZxl1y–launched a week ago and is off to an exciting start. This is my second novel set in Lake Geneva, the city I fondly call home – the full name of our village is Fontana-on-Lake Geneva.  It’s fun to hear my adult son Dan say he’s up to Chapter Seven –  when writing an author never thinks about having your adult children read the love scenes. Gulp. Awkward…  I’m grateful for the reviews thus far – thanks for taking some of your valuable time to read and review. 

What’s being written right now, friends, in your living History Book With God? From birth to final breath our history with Him goes on…





Tuesday, August 14, 2018

Treasuring Memories & These Last Weeks

Are you treasuring these last weeks of summer along with me? How delightful to enjoy evening bike rides and walks, playing tennis, hitting golf balls and just hanging out with family and friends. I love all the seasons, even winter (for a time anyway), but summer is hands down my favorite.

Back to school is just around the corner for our youngest grandchildren Joshua and Anna. Their parents recently moved from Florida to within five minutes of us in July. Yay! Our older five grandchildren have completed their schooling through college so this is like a do-over.

I’m wondering how you moms and grand moms do or did celebrate the first day of school in your children’s lives growing up. I always made homemade chocolate chip cookies. I was so sad and baking gave me something meaningful to do other than cry. I loved being a Mom and having my four children home with me all summer. When they’d return home from school on the first day we’d sit at the kitchen table so I could hear about the new adventures in each of their lives.

Recently, I came across a letter I sent our twin grandchildren when they started first grade eight years ago. I re-sent it to them as they start high school because the pointers still apply today.

Dear Anna and Joshua,
Remember to look at your teacher and listen when he or she talks. Obey rules with a cheerful smile and don’t be grumpy when you have to do something. If you have a question or need help, ask.

If at first you don’t understand how to do something, it’s okay, sometimes you need to try several times before you can do something new, like riding your bicycle, remember? And sometimes your brain needs to hear things often, before the new idea sticks in it. Be patient with yourself.

Be on the look-out for other children that you can be kind to. Check if someone seems to be left out and include them. Even if other children are sometimes naughty, you be good. However, if someone is rude or unkind you don’t need to play with them until they improve their behavior. Always remember God loves you and your family does too. Love, Grandma and Grandpa

Wise advice for all of us adults today too? Being kind and considerate of others is always in style whether it’s in the grocery store or government offices or on the roadways. That said, most people are so awesome. Every day people pleasantly surprise me with their thoughtfulness.

Best of all, God is in our new experiences and in the old. Some things are always current like loving Him and depending on God the Father, Son and Holy Spirit to help us through all the experiences of our lives. I can’t imagine doing life any other way, can you?

Happy end of summer and transitioning into a fantastic fall season friends and family.


SPEAKING NEWS
Mid-August Wayne and I travel to Monroe, Wisconsin for the Christian Women’s Connection Men’s Guest night. Wayne will give the keynote talk and I’ll present a feature “Enhancing Important Relationships.” Wayne's new book, Thoughts For Today, Words For Tomorrow a father's legacy to his children will be available and is also on amazon.

FREE BOOKS
Last month 250 people ordered my e-books on days they were free. Since my writing is ministry you know I love giving away free books (I can only do this with the books I own all rights to which doesn’t include my mysteries - sorry.) Jesus Time devotionals will be a free e-book on August 28 and September 18. 

WRITING NEWS
I’m SO excited to announce The Windemere Affair my next mystery novel will be released October 5th. It will be available for pre-order shortly – I’ll let you know when I have a date.

Thank you for so graciously receiving my new Jesus Time, 365 Love Notes of Wonder & Worship book and for your kind notes and reviews. I pray you'll be blessed daily by these devotionals.
 

I started writing every Tuesday for the Facebook page Fill My Cup, Lord alternating with a team of delightful Christian authors. I’d love for you to check it out and LIKE our page which we hope will encourage women.

Hebrews12:2: "Looking away from all that will distract us to Jesus, Who is the Leader and the Source of our faith, and also the Finisher bringing it to maturity and perfection." (Amplified Bible)

Tuesday, July 3, 2018

Happy and Blessed Fourth of July

HAPPY FOURTH OF JULY!

What are some of your favorite memories of watching fireworks on the 4th? Spectacular shows, aren’t they, followed by fun family parties! But the reason behind them can easily be overlooked.


On this special day we celebrate America’s independence and freedom! And may we never forget that we were founded to be a Christian nation.

I like the words of John Quincy Adams, one of our early Presidents. “Is it not that in the chain of human events, the birthday of the nation is indissolubly linked with the birthday of the Savior?”

How about: “All the scholars are required to live a religious and blameless life according to the rules of God’s Word, diligently reading the Holy Scriptures, that fountain of Divine light and truth..”  Handbook of Yale, one of our earliest colleges, in the 1787 Student Guidelines.

And this quote: “The Americans combine the notions of Christianity and of liberty so intimately in their minds that is impossible to make them conceive the one without the other.” Alex de Tocqueville: French observer of America in 1831, author of Democracy in America.

Do our children and grandchildren know this connection?  Let’s be sure to tell them.

Many have been misled into believing things other than the truth about our rich Christian heritage in America. Admittedly our country is not without sin, but it still is the greatest nation on earth. It was founded by godly men who acknowledged a heavenly Father as the source of all that is good. And only by giving Jesus praise and thanks and living by God’s moral principles will our country remain great.

Let love reign in our land and may God be honored in all we do for Him. Let’s sing it loud and clear this July 4th, “America! America! God shed his grace on thee, and crown thy good with brotherhood from sea to shining sea.”

 “Blessed is the nation whose God is the Lord.”  Psalm 33:12.  
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                                         WRITING  AND SPEAKING NEWS

Praise Jesus! The early amazon reviews for Jesus Time, Love Notes of Wonder & Worship are gratifying. Thank you dear readers.  May many people be blessed.
Click on link to read more: https://amzn.to/2rke9M3 

                                          
  


Prayers are appreciated for Special Events in July:
Author fest Book signing Lake Geneva Lakefront Sat. July 14th
Christian Women’s Connection Speaking Events:
Lake Geneva Guest Night, July 11th
Rice Lake After Five Group, July 16
CWC Eau Claire, WI July 17
Grace Evangelical Church Women’s Event, Sat. July 28th
Also please pray for our daughter Pam and husband John's Life Sports Camps for 500 kids in Village Church, Gurnee running 3 weeks of July.

Exciting News! My husband Wayne has become a writer! His  500-plus-page book Thoughts For Today Words For Tomorrow is now available on amazon. I couldn’t be more proud! It’s a collection of bits and pieces, words of encouragement from a husband and father to his family. Check it out by following the link below.