“Come back here. I never said you could die Alexander Graham
Rolfs.“ We gave our chocolate lab a prestigious name because his large brown eyes and
regal fur coat required it.
Only a dog, only a constant companion, twenty-four, seven. Our chocolate lab Alex would come with us
everywhere. He’d jump into the car, never caring where we were heading; being
close to us was his delight.
Every time I moved from room to room in our home, we became a
parade because he jumped up to follow me, all ninety pounds. How crazy is that?
In the last year of his twelve years of life this wasn’t easy. I’d try not to
get up too often so he could stay put.
How do you lose a spouse, a brother, sister, or, gasp, a child?
I can’t even tolerate the death of my dog. I’ve lost my parents, brother and our
precious grandson. I learned back then grief has no final chapter, only death does.
Sobs come from some place in my body that has an ability to
produce sound I wouldn’t know how to create. Like a pit within me erupting.
So why death God?
Does growing older mean we only increase the number of
deaths we must endure?
Lessons, yes we got them. The value of love and loyalty – daybreak
to daybreak - two qualities we could depend on no matter who else disappointed us.
Our chocolate lab never would.
Oh Alex could be naughty, if we left the garbage can lid
unlocked, his nose got him in trouble every time. He didn’t always come when he
should. But he’d prance back as if he’d done no wrong, just a bit delayed in
executing his response to my command, tail wagging with innocence.
How can you love a dog so much?
How can God love us so much? I know beyond doubt I understand
God’s love better because of Alex.
The evening he died the family members who could come
arrived. We shared our memories as Alex lay dead in the center of our circle on
his favorite rug in front of the fireplace he loved. We cried and laughed
together because that’s what people need to do. Celebrate and mourn.
Then four dog-bearers carried Alex on a carpet to his outdoor
grave in our woods alongside the house.
Our adult daughter Pam carried the lit candle, which was
needed because ritual mattered – it signified the solemnity we all felt. The
commemoration of a life that brought so much joy to us all had to be very special.
We placed his favorite stuffed toy alongside him, circled his grave and said an Our Father. Surely Jesus’
favorite prayer was right for this.
I was asked by my husband to toss the first spade of dirt.
Three times I tried and stopped, I said, I so don’t want to do this.
How could I cover up the body that lay next to our bed on the floor every night
as we slept, the body under the dining table on which I rested my feet during every
meal? The one who sensed my every mood.
Finally I fought off the dread and did what needed doing. Isn’t
that what the living are always left to do?
Where, what could ever replace any human life or beloved pet?
Nothing replaces what was. Knowing this is what makes death so wretchedly hard.
We can only wait.
Are there animals in heaven? Does anybody who knows God
intimately need to ask that question?
The Lord gave, and the Lord has taken away; blessed be the name of the Lord.” Job 1:21
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