Happy Valentine's Day!

  

 

Today, Valentine’s Day I came across this article on married love my husband wrote 18 years ago for the men in our church. I’m sharing it with you on my blog. Gals, I think you’ll like it too! May you be blessed!

 

Marriage by God’s Terms by Wayne Rolfs

 

Valentine’s Day, the day we celebrate love. I, along with you other married guys, will be buying a card, flowers or candy for the wife God has given us. Judith will receive one peach rose for sure (her favorite) with perhaps a few words of what she means to me. 

 

They say life is all about relationships. After 42 years of marriage, I’m still learning what God had in mind when he said a man will cleave and cling to his wife becoming one flesh, and how to do it. (Genesis 2:24) Here are a few thoughts that God and others have taught me. I confess I’ve been a slow learner. 

 

As Christians, we know marriage was God’s idea. It then must be true that a good marriage will honor God. It’s God giving one person to another to be united with God in love. But when two imperfect people come together, the marriage isn’t always what we had hoped. Although it’s the closest bond two people can have, it can be exhausting, unnerving, infuriating and painful. Believe me, I’ve been there. When we got married the romantic attraction was strong but I was in it mainly for selfish motives often operating on demands and expectations. At this point, I was not a Christian and frankly, at times our marriage was a disaster. 

 

Seven years later, as a Christian, I found out what God wanted. He changed my heart as I prayed to Him to make me the man he wanted me to be. Similar to my spiritual conversion, my marital conversion led me on a gradual path of God-directed change. By God’s grace, He gave me a special love for Judith that grows with each passing year. I’m far from perfect and we still have skirmishes, but our love and commitment is bigger than our problems. Praise God! 

 

God has taught me that mutual respect is one of the most important things in a marriage. Ephesians 5:33 advises, “Let the wife see that she respects her husband.” However it can’t be demanded. We have to show her with our words and behavior that we deserve respect. We need to love and nurture our wife. She needs our emotional intimacy - intimate communication - to be there for her, the one she can turn to for whatever - to be a safe haven where she knows she will be protected and cared for when necessary. Security comes from God, but often speaks through a husband’s love. That’s the work of love God has given us. 

 

Judith, at our weekly sharing times, often tells me about something she noticed me to cause her to respect me. It could be with the children and grandchildren, neighbors, my walk with the Lord, or just being who God has called me to be. Christian leadership for her husband as defined by our spiritual life, humility and servant hood. I think that that’s what wives are looking for in their husbands. 

 

God’s Word says my marriage to Judith should be a total commitment of unconditional agape love - the love that God has for us for the rest of our lives. It is a covenant relationship with my being willing to sacrifice my needs for those of Judith. No strings attached. Only God can enable me to love Judith with covenant love - to treat Judith as God treats me. Ephesians 5 tells me to love my wife as Christ loves the church and love my wife as my own body or self. 1 Corinthians 13 tells me about God’s kind of love, the type of love I need to try to practice. 

 

1 Peter 3:7 says husbands be considerate, (thoughtful, understanding, caring, selfless) as you live with your wives and treat them with respect (honor, esteem, reverence, value) so nothing will hinder your prayer life. Peter says if my relationship with my wife isn’t right my prayers will not be effective because my relationship with the Father, among other things, depends on a loving relationship with my wife.

 

Try getting into a giving match with your wife. Happiest couples I have met are those who try to out give each other. 1 Corinthian 7:33 says make it a habit to give thought as to how you may please your wife. Proverbs 16:29 states “Pleasant words are honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.” What pleasant words do our wives need to hear from us today? Every day? 

 

The Bible makes it clear that the Father desires an intimate relationship with us and also for us with our wives. Judith has become my best friend and I share my deepest thoughts and concerns and feelings with her. God’s plan is for us to know our wife’s love, and she ours, which then gives each of us a deeper appreciation of the Father and his love for us. Marriage can and should be the closest touch and glimpse we can have on earth of what heaven will be like. God is love and heaven is a place of love. (I especially like reading these words because my husband is now in heaven.)

 

What a blessing is available from God for husbands when married hearts touch physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Don’t be discouraged if your marriage is none of the things I’ve mentioned. Mine wasn’t either, but we have a wonderful God who will do for you what he has done for me if you let him. Let’s move forward in the coming year and encourage each other in His divine plan for our marriages.

Blessed Thanksgiving 2022

  

Gratitude shocks me at times – surging like a sudden storm through my head. I absorb with awe God’s power to create every atom and make all circumstances good in His way and time. Rays of sunshine shoot from the splendor of God to penetrate the forest surrounding my home and my heart. My praise overflows, blessed to live in a place I love among family and friends! What wild, amazing, God-designed flowers each person is in the garden of my life.

 

My deep thanks cut to the core when I observe real, recognizable events no man orchestrated and know, just know for sure, the action was God’s. His signs are ever present, if one but looks. 

 

Still, at times thanks-living can be hard. Like now, with my husband’s physical presence gone from earth. His love has given me exquisite moments of joy and deep agonies – who ever thought hearts could hurt so bad?  I work to focus on the sweet memories and glorious times with my man now in heaven, and give God praise for what we had.  Eventually, the wave of peace comes again.

 

How I appreciate the privilege of being helpful in someone else’s life, however minutely. To speak or write a word of truth into another person, to thrust a spear into debilitating depression or ignite a dead marriage with new life. How honored I am to be able to minister to God’s beloveds.

 

Thanksgiving is humbling. And “thank you” has many forms. Ordinary thanksgivings to God the great giver for His endless giving.  For simple items like carrots and dogs and emotional insights and human re-creations, too. Yay, God did it again. He alone gives significance and purpose to every moment.

 

May we each live daily with thanks to God seeping from our hearts and spilling from our lips.

 

Blessed Thanksgiving!

 

A favorite Scripture verse is: “1 Thessalonians 5:16-18. Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.”

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I so appreciate your prayers for God to be glorified and women blessed at my next speaking event - Grace Church’s Women’s Christmas Tea on Dec. 3^rd.

 

Are you Christmas shopping for ages 9 & up? I’d love to have your children meet Tommy Smurlee and Grella Weller in their mystery fantasy 3 book series and experience their life-changing adventures.

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Life is Hard But God is a Real and Present Help

 

LOSSES ARE HARD! We all have them some time or another.  It’s the part of the human condition I like least.
 
Learning to do life without the love of my life these past two months has been SURELY the hardest thing I’ve ever done. It’s second in comparison only to what it might be like trying to find joy and meaning in a life without God. Even the thought is incredible.
 
Not by my choice am I in this place. I held my husband in my arms and nursed him for seven months when countless times it seemed as if it would be his last day on earth. I would have gladly continued caring for him forever.
 
God assures me in Psalm 139 that I can trust Wayne’s appointed time of death was known at his birth by His loving Father. I believe God had magnificent angels transport Wayne into His mansion of glory.
 
Wayne repeatedly said he didn’t want to leave me. I didn’t want him to! I couldn’t bear to see his pain with no hope of it ending. I understood fully that his only sadness was being without me for a time. I assured him I wouldn’t be long. I told him to wait for me near the gate. 
 
Wayne was so ready to meet Jesus face to face. He never doubted for a second that He’d be waiting for him. Accepting Wayne’s decision was my last and greatest act as his help-mate. 
 
Now all I have is the huge hole created by his absence. Nothing seems worth doing or significant. The pain I carry seems to double my body weight. Maybe others can’t see my heaviness, but I feel it every second.  
 
Wayne’s body on earth had ceased to be a worthy vessel for all he was. Wayne’s spirit longed to be free. I wanted that for him too. I knew his absence would hurt and I’d scarcely survive.
 
I pray you never have to face a loss of a beloved spouse, parent or child like this, but if you do maybe these thoughts below help.
 
SILENCE SOOTHES ME AS I WALK THRU THE HOUSE IN THE MORNING AFTER I AWAKE THAT I MAY HEAR THE VOICE OF GOD AND REMEMBER WAYNE.
 
SPEAKING PRAISES ALOUD TO GOD EACH MORNING AND NIGHT.
These are some of mine: Praising God that my beloved is fully able to hear, see, sing, run, golf, dance and that he is with God every moment. If he can’t be with me that’s the only place I can bear for him to be that I know is better.
 
Praising Jesus for being God of the universe. Not a sparrow falls to the ground without Him knowing and allowing it. He designed a life span of fullness of strength for each of us. (And He extended Wayne’s far beyond the majority.)
 
Praising Jesus that our children have lived into their fifties and sixties with a father on earth. How extraordinary is that!
 
Praising Jesus for a husband who cherished and loved me so deeply and expressed it in such beautiful ways through touch, gifts, words, his time and devotion.
 
Praising God that His Holy Spirit will guide me minute by minute to maximize the remaining time I have on earth.
 
SMALL ACTIONS HELP TOO LIKE SENDING A NOTE OF GRATITUDE TO SOMEONE FOR SOMETHING EACH DAY. I’ve been blessed to have been affirmed many times throughout my life and I know how encouraging this can be.
 
BEING WITH PEOPLE at least 1-2 hours each day even if it’s only sitting in a library or coffee shop. Yes, I am trying to stay busy.
 
SAVORING GOD’S BEAUTY AROUND ME. Lord what a marvelous day in the gorgeous Upper Gardens! Even as my tears flow softly I can see Your beauty all around me. I can only imagine what Wayne must be seeing.
 
WATCHING THE SUNSET EVERY NIGHT AND SPENDING TIME IN NATURE LIKE MY VISIT WITH THESE BEAUTIFUL HORSES.
 
TRUSTING JESUS is with me to help me overcome the challenges of each day. My greatest challenge is learning to thrive in loneliness. I walk into a room where Wayne should be, and pain clutches inside my chest and tears stream. Where they all come from I can’t imagine. This isn’t the life I know or want.
 
Only Jesus can help through horrendous losses. 
 
PRAYER: 
Lord, I pray You will show me what is to be my new schedule as a woman husbanded by God and I trust that You will continue each day. May I be a blessing to others even now. MAY MY GRIEVING ADULT CHILDREN TO FIND COMFORT IN YOUR PRESENCE.
 
Psalm 61:2 “From the end of the earth will I call unto thee, when my heart is overwhelmed: Lead me to the rock that is higher than I.”
 
WRITING EVENTS UPDATE:
Not much new writing happening but I will be at the Angelus Shop in Walworth, WI for their Christmas Open House and a book signing. Nov. 12^th. It’s always a lovely event. Writer friend Carol Paur will be there also launching her new book. My Unforgettable Stories For Kids and Tommy Smurlee/Grella Weller series makes great children’s gifts!

 New Beginnings

 

I’d love to go back to this tea party day years ago, but life insists on pushing me forward into unfamiliar places. My husband Wayne recently entered heaven. Our granddaughter Anna began college this month along with her twin brother Joshua. And sadly I have begun a new, non-normal life as a woman husbanded by God. 

 

I now understand why there are so many Scriptures on God’s comfort when we hurt and I need every one! Along with the extraordinary kindness of you wonderful friends and loving family members I must figure out the daily-ness of doing life alone while grieving deeply. I’m not exaggerating when I say it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done.

 

These 10 Scripture verses speak to me and help me take each next breath:
Psalm 147:3 “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” 
Isaiah 40:1 “‘Comfort, yes, comfort My people!’ says your God.” 
Matthew 5:4 “Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.”
Matthew 11:28 “Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” 
Romans 15:4 “For whatever things were written before were written for our learning, that we through the patience and comfort of the Scriptures might have hope.” 
2 Corinthians 1:3-4 “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.” 
Psalm 119:50 “This is my comfort in my affliction, for Your word has given me life.” 
Isaiah 49:13 “Sing, O heavens! Be joyful, O earth! And break out in singing, O mountains! For the LORD has comforted His people, and will have mercy on His afflicted.” 
1 Thessalonians 5:1 “Therefore comfort each other and edify one another, just as you also are doing.” 
2 Thessalonians 2:16-17 “Now may our Lord Jesus Christ Himself, and our God and Father, who has loved us and given us everlasting consolation and good hope by grace, comfort your hearts and establish you in every good word and work.” 

 

My prayer is Lord, please comfort me so that I may comfort others. Is there any reason for pain other than being able to help others to survive and to find a measure of joy and peace again? Whatever your difficult situation, I hope these verses will help you as well.

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My first little step out back into the world is Wed. Sept. 14, Lake Geneva Christian Women’s Connection luncheon. My author friend Delores Leisner and I will describe the books we wrote intending to bless men and women seeking more of God’s ways and less of self.

 

If you’ve checked my YouTube Channel lately, know that I hope to be adding soon to the free 30 videos already available on marriage and parenting. Thank you for subscribing.

 

As long as God gives me life, I know He has purpose for me. May I live it out well…

 

 

Truth-Telling

When we’re lovers of Jesus, we have the privilege of carrying His love and truth to others. We do that through ordinary circumstances of our ordinary lives stamped with a super-ordinary mission upon our souls. And we speak truth lovingly when the need arises. 

In our culture today is a glaring mistruth -the misperception women have been told that aborting human life is a healthy choice. 

If we truly care about the health of the women of the world and want what’s best for them, we’ll replace the emotional hoopla over the end of Roe vs. Wade’s unconstitutional murdering of babies with truth. 

Here is the reality. Carrying a pregnancy to full term is natural and healthy for every woman unless a doctor clearly decrees her life is actually in danger. The benefits to completing a pregnancy are huge!

• Reduced risk of MS 
• Lower risk of breast cancer 
• Lower risk of other cancers 
• A lower risk of stroke 
• A boost in mood 
• Easier periods 

Reduced risk of MS

Multiple sclerosis, which affects the nerve cells in the brain and spinal cord, may be on the rise — in part, experts think, because many women have fewer kids. But having a baby cuts your risk of developing this autoimmune disorder in half, according to a small Australian study. And each pregnancy offered even more protection, with mothers of four or more kids slashing their risk by an astonishing 95 percent. 

During pregnancy, a woman’s immune system adjusts to avoid attacking the baby, and experts think this lower immune activity may reduce the inflammation that causes nerve damage. After childbirth, some of your baby’s cells remain in your body and may keep immune-system activity — and MS risk — down. Although doctors used to advise women with MS not to have babies, they now believe pregnancy actually reduces the risk of a relapse.

A lower risk of stroke

Stroke is a leading cause of death in women in the U.S., but one study found that postmenopausal women who breastfed were less likely to have a stroke than those who never breastfed. In fact, breastfeeding just one baby for at least six months can lower your risk of heart disease, as well as diabetes and high blood pressure.  One theory is the oxytocin released during nursing may have heart-healthy properties that ward off stroke.

Lower risk of ovarian and endometrial cancer

The hormonal shifts that occur during pregnancy and breastfeeding also protect against ovarian and endometrial cancer, and the more full-term pregnancies you have, the greater the benefit. Scientists are investigating how carrying a baby can reduce a woman’s risk of other cancers too. 

Easier periods

Good news for women with bad cramps: Having babies may bring you some relief in the long run. Many women find that their menstrual cramps are much less painful — or even nonexistent — after the birth of their first baby. The above info is from “Health Benefits of Pregnancy and Motherhood” by Maria Masters, Medically Reviewed by Jennifer Wu, M.D., F.A.C.O. G. on November 3, 2021. It’s only one of many articles listing the medical benefits of continuing with a pregnancy rather than aborting. This truth isn’t being spoken by radio, TV other social media so it must come from Christ’s truth tellers.

I can personally vouch for the mental, emotional and spiritual well-being of women who continue with a pregnancy rather than abort their baby. Over my thirty years as a mental health practitioner I have counseled numerous women who had abortions. I only wish you could hear their stories of deep regret, particularly among those who have subsequently had families and then realized the enormity of their loss.

The sense of loss can lead to depression, a form of post-partum blues that doesn’t stop. Statistics show many women have ongoing anger issues and other mental health problems after abortions.

I understand that a baby can be inconvenient or for whatever reason a woman doesn’t feel capable of raising a child. Then adoption is a wonderful life-giving, self-nurturing choice. We can provide resources to help women go through pregnancy with support and then help them gift the baby through adoption to responsible parents. The women will get the health benefits of going through pregnancy. It’s a win-win situation.

God’s natural plan is always to do good and not harm. Let’s stop telling women abortion is in their best interest. It’s clearly not! I love all God’s people and want the very best for them.

I hope you will ponder these facts and be a truth teller with me. Let’s consider the real well-being and health of women.

“The LORD is my shepherd, I lack nothing. He makes me lie down in green pastures, He leads me beside quiet waters,  He refreshes my soul.” Psalm 23

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God Laughs, So Should We...

In these trouble times, I’ve noticed, from my vantage point as a psychotherapist, an increase of anxiety among people I know. It’s like a sickness hanging in the air. There are logical reasons for this - real economic concerns and continuing health worries. But God has given us a simple antidote for anxiety, if we’ll remember to use it.

And it’s powerful!  I’m describing God’s gift of laughter. Pure, unadulterated, joyful laughter. I searched out the Scripture verses that specifically use the word laugh or laughter and listed them below. Many other verses speak about being joyful, rejoicing and praising God. I don’t discount that delight, but these refer specifically to the act of laughing. 
 
God laughs. Since we’re made in God’s image, the ability to laugh is not an add-on that only certain personalities have. We all acquired our ability to laugh from God so anyone can utilize this gift. And we can intentionally learn to laugh more. Laughter is a contagious human experience and totally healthy.
 
Laughter can keep us from being too somber about distressing events around us and remind us we have a fortress in our loving God. The Lord himself laughs at the wicked for he knows that their day is coming. (Psalm 37:13)  I wonder if we, too, could actually laugh at times at the ridiculous evil we see. Is this realistic? It is, if we know that God is in charge of all things.
 
Little is known about the mechanism of laughter, but all the same we know it works when we experience it because we enjoy every moment. What makes you laugh until your insides jiggle? Funny, silly movies, the antics of a dog, jokes? 
 
Let’s consider the practical health benefits of laughter. When our eighteen-year-old son was diagnosed with advanced T-cell cancer, one of the first things we did was send someone to the library to pick up an armload of funny movies to boost his immune system.
 
Laughter aids circulation, lowers blood pressure, boosts our immune system, and releases tension which lowers anxiety. The physical act of laughing releases endorphins in the brain causing a feeling of happiness. The relaxed feeling after a good laugh can last up to an hour, similar to when you have a physical work-out. It increases the body’s production of antibodies and T-cells that fight off disease. Your pain tolerance jumps. Fifteen muscles in your face contract during laughter. Yes, all true. Yet, as we age, we often forget how much fun it is. And how helpful.
 
Personally, I think laughter is the most fun when it’s also a social experience. I love to laugh with family and friends, but I do derive pleasure from laughing at myself occasionally, too. 
 
I also view laughter as a spiritual experience, because it’s a great act of trust to laugh with God no matter what’s going on around us. Evil does exist in our midst. I’m not asking anyone to ignore that reality. But we have a choice and we can laugh while walking the path of trust - rejoicing and praising our God who is in charge of all things. 
 
One of my children’s stories in Unforgettable Stories for Kids is called The Tickle Ring. It’s plain, pure silliness. I encourage you to read it to your child or grandchild or let me read it for you through my YouTube channel Judith Rolfs. You’ll find lots of thoughts and tips there to motivate families to make an intentional effort to create a happy, strong family life. 
 
I kept a joke book in the car when driving my grandchildren around. After I pick them up at school I let them take turns reading a joke for the day.  How about this Father’s Day sharing some anecdotal stories from your childhood or your husbands that could create atmosphere for laughter. 
 
You may want to keep the Scripture verses below handy to remind you to be intentional about adding more laughter into your life. 
 
Happy days of laughter!
 

1. Genesis 21:6: “And Sarah declared, ‘God has brought me laughter. All who hear about this will laugh with me.’”
2. Job 8:21: “He will once again fill your mouth with laughter and your lips with shouts of joy.”
3. Psalm 2:4: “But the one who rules in heaven laughs.”
4. Psalm 37:13: “But the Lord just laughs, for he sees their day of judgment coming.”
5. Psalm 126:2: “We were filled with laughter, and we sang for joy. And the other nations said, ‘What amazing things the Lord has done for them.’” 
6. Luke 6:21: “God blesses you who are hungry now, for you will be satisfied. God blesses you who weep now for in due time you will laugh.”
7. Ecclesiastes 3:4:  “A time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance…”
8. Ecclesiastes 10:19 “A feast is made for laughter…”

 
For Father’s Day, no better gift for dads of any age than Man in Command, How To Be A Great Husband and Dad!
 
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On a personal note, my husband Wayne still battles the after effects of Covid that damaged his lungs. We are so grateful to those of you who have prayed for him since January. Today when I called him my suffering saint, he said “No,” he's blessed in so many ways! 

Easter Greetings!

Easter joy dear family and friends! These past three months, since I last wrote my blog, have been a busy time steeped in continual prayer and moment by moment gratitude. Gratefulness takes a deeper meaning when you’re listening for every breath of your beloved husband, fearing it might be his last.

Our time of intense outer activity and incredible inner tension began Christmas Day when Covid entered our world. I was sick about a week, but Wayne was hit quite hard and is still on supplemental oxygen and unable to walk more than twenty feet without becoming breathless.

 

What I most wish to tell you is that God is faithful thru the fire and all the phrases you’ve read in Scripture and heard in Christian songs ARE TRUE. God is a present help in trouble, He will sustain you, you can cling to Him. The God who named Himself I AM is with us when we go through exhaustion and life-threatening dangers.

 

We depended upon His Holy Spirit for wisdom as we sorted out conflicting treatment recommendations. I prayed Scripture over Wayne nightly. Favorite verses were from Psalm 27, 13 and 14: “I remain confident of this: I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living.  Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.”

 

Heaven has occupied our minds often. I will admit anticipating the awesome presence of Jesus there is a huge draw. Neither Wayne, nor I, are afraid of transitioning to existence in heaven. Honestly though, we dread the idea of being separated for a while from one another and family and friends.

 

The past ten days Wayne has shown small, but definite improvement. It would appear we’ve temporarily been blessed with MORE OF his life here! We serve a MORE OF God. 

 

We didn’t journey through this alone. The prayers of so many of you were powerful!!! And our adult children were incredible caregivers!!! And many gifts of soups and sweets and cards were deeply appreciated.

 

So this Easter we celebrate the RISEN LIFE of JESUS AND THE LIFE OF  MY HUSBAND WAYNE, at least until God brings his life to completion in His perfect way and time.

 

WRITING/SPEAKING UPDATE:

My 24th and probably last book, God’s Near, a devotional, was released in Jan.  but I didn’t have time to publicize it. May it bless you. If you’d like to leave a review or tell friends I'd be grateful. 

My YouTube channel [Judith Rolfs] has continued to grow to over 600 subscribers. The most popular video has over 18,000 views – 10 Ways to Show Respect. This is all God. I’ve done nothing to make it happen. I pray every viewer and reader will be blessed by the work God assigned me years ago when He called me to write, speak and counsel for Him.

This link below takes you to my author page.

 https://www.amazon.com/Judith-Rolfs/e/B001KI0KLU%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share

• BLESSED EASTER DEAR ONES! 
• TRULY JESUS IS RISEN!
• LET NOTHING AND NO ONE TAKE YOUR JOY FROM YOU. 
• IT'S OUR EASTER LEGACY OF HOPE LIFTING OUR HEARTS EVERY DAY.

 

 

Have an awesome Christmas!

  

How exciting to celebrate Christ’s birth again! This is truly our favorite season!  Of course we’re blessed to live in joy year round because of Christ’s entrance into our world – intriguing since through Jesus the heavens and earth were originally made.

 

2021 has been an unusual year for us - two people who grew up in the rather calm fifties. Such social turbulence and medical confusion! Thank God we’re resilient as children of the King of Kings, Lord of Lords and so are you. 

 

Our Personal News: 

Praise God, Wayne, my husband, had a good report on his latest heart echogram! His heart function is back in the normal range. 

 

We plan to winter in Florida again where we spent last Feb. and March. We’ll bring along our laptops so writing continues. Wayne spends several hours a day researching and writing. What fun after all these years of marriage – almost 60– to see him as an author.  He has many people who look forward to his daily blogs. (E-mail me your address if you’d like to be on the list.)

 

While in FL we had a fun week with our adult daughters Tamara and Pam who joined us in March to celebrate Wayne’s birthday. We also had pleasant times with dear friends in Ocala. Can’t forget the beauty of experiencing Door County, WI in July. This October we celebrated my birthday in Branson, Missouri with our daughter Pam and son-in-law John. We enjoyed the incredible Jesus play and visiting Dogwood Canyon and other sites. 

 

Our home base, a thrice-expanded cottage in the woods, is truly a refuge. We awake every morning filled with praise to live in God’s beautiful setting although I did become ill with Lyme’s disease for two months courtesy of a deer tic. 

 

A few years back, I closed my marriage and family counseling practice of several decades. Now I’m now privileged to counsel countless couples virtually via YouTube videos on my channel which gives me great joy.

 

I sensed the need to be an advocate for children this year. I spoke at our local school board about the psychological damage that masking children does to them by creating an atmosphere of fear in what should be a safe place. Child suicide is rising at ever earlier ages and masking doesn’t permit kids to experience facial cues necessary for healthy socialization.  Cloth masks, it’s been proven, don’t stop the spread of viruses and children rarely get seriously ill from Cov anyway.

 

We have no objection to adults choosing vaccination (although it’s been proven natural immunity is way better) but we oppose vaccinating children with an experimental serum when there’s no scientific knowledge of long term effects. Sadly we have a family member harmed neurologically by the J & J vaccine and we await the day when more research is done.

 

Over and over God tells us not to live in fear – it’s the most frequently given command in scripture. There seems to be something evil at work in the world creating tension and fear, but not to worry. Our God will right all wrongs in His perfect way and time. 

 

I love having frequent conversations with Him throughout the day. Some of them evolved into my latest devotional God’s Near, for helping draw people closer to Him. Recently, I completed another new book in 2021, another children’s fantasy novel, Mystery of the Silver Shells - Book 3 in the Tommy Smurlee series.

 

I hope to spend 2022 reading and relaxing more and enjoying extended times of contemplative prayer. With 4 adult children and their spouses, 7 amazing grandchildren, 3 great-grands and a world gone wild, I have plenty of prayer opportunities.

 

We want you to know we appreciate you! We’re all in this together, simply trying to live our best life day by day. I love that Christmas is a season to be enjoyed all year in our hearts and with friends and family at every opportunity. 

 

Our prayer is that this Christmas you will experience the rich emotion of deep unending joy. Joy, joy, joy in Jesus today, tomorrow and always is what Christmas is all about.

 

Sending love,

Judith and Wayne

 

 

Thanksgiving 2021 - So Grateful!!!

 

 
Pondering thanksgiving…

Another year and it’s been an amazing one on multiple levels.
 
We’re grateful for continued good health overall. This means taking the next breath for each of us – not without some pain and challenges. Lyme’s disease darkened my days of September and October, and left behind some continual joint pain, but I’m functioning forward and beyond grateful. I'm thrilled to continue to provide free marriage and family counseling via my YouTube channel - Judith Rolfs.
 
We have a new great grand baby now one-year-old and a new book baby, GOD’S NEAR! 
 
I’m mindful of thanksgiving as a humbling act. It causes us to pause a moment and use a moment of our present life for honoring past moments. When we give thanks we acknowledge that we’re the recipient of a blessing, often times undeserved and often not self-initiated. To be a thankful person requires a focused mind alert to the happenings deserving of thanks that surround us. 
 
Thanksgiving is akin to praise. Why are they connected? Because praise and thanksgiving is naturally due our amazing God who is the author of every good and beautiful thing. God inhabits the praises of His people.
 
Furthermore, “For everything created by God is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving, for it is made holy by the word of God and prayer.” 1 Timothy 4:4–5 ESV
 
My favorite quote on thanksgiving is by G.K. Chesterton. “Thanks are the highest form of thought, and gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder.”

 
On Thanksgiving Day 2021 may we remember in the midst of all that is flawed and unholy and unlovable in this world, there is a God who loves us today and forever. He promises us a holy rescue to the heights of heaven on a future day where pain shall be no longer. In the meantime God assures us of His presence and comfort no matter what. 

 
I’m hoping my new book will remind readers of this. May it find its way into homes and hearts during this season.
 

 
 
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GOD’S LOVE AND GRACIOUS GOODNESS TO US NEVER FAILS. 
 
 
BLESSED THANKSGIVING!

SAINTS AMONG US!

 It occurred to me how wonderful it would be to celebrate people in our lives who have inspired us. Who comes to your mind?

Some very special women I’m privileged to call friends are Sue Drefs and Karen Sweetman who are first to call and insist upon bringing over a meal or a pastry whenever they hear of someone going through a difficult time of illness or loss. Many times they’ve blessed me like this. Probably not until heaven will anyone know how many people they have helped by not asking what they can do, but just doing.
 
There’s my precious friend Pat Cavenagh with her awesome ministries over the years. She worked in the Joliet prison changing the lives of many black women who were incarcerated and so dangerous many were afraid to have any connection. She also had a ministry with her husband of bringing people to Christ by inviting them for dinner and telling them about Jesus and a wonderful Christian retreat experience which led many to a lifetime of loving and serving Christ. Countless couples have been impacted along with their families through the years. Plus her ministry of powerful prayer for healing has had enormous impact. 
 
Gloria Bianchini along with her husband founded the Christian Royal Oak Apple Orchard Restaurant and Gift Shop. One only has to walk on the property to sense it is a sacred place dedicated to Christ and the glory of God. Gloria has hosted numerous Bible studies for the community on her property. She’s quite a Bible scholar and shares the fruit of her studies with many, including me.
 
Author Becky Melby started a writing ministry to bring writers together to mutually hone their skills and graciously opened her home up to include men and women and even homeschool students interested in developing writing skills. Becky has a recent book she co-authored with Cynthia Ruchti, another godly woman. It’s titled Spouse in the House for wives adapting to husbands who retired or started working at home full-time. Both women are incredible authors of fiction also and I highly recommend their books, especially this new one. https://www.amazon.com/Spouse-House-Rearranging-Attitudes-Other/dp/0825446783
 
Then there’s Joann and Heather and Sandy with their hospitality gifts, and Margaret with her Angel Prayer ministry and Mary with her local Christian book club and Debbie leading a weekly Moms in Prayer Group and on and on. These are only some of the women who have been models for me as they serve Christ and one another. There are many more and it’s a great honor to know them and call them friends. 
 
Now who are the women in your life who have inspired you? Perhaps you’ll want to have a conversation to let them know. We truly do have saints among us still! 
 
WRITING/SPEAKING UPDATE
I’m delighted My YouTube channel continues to grow. Through it I’m blessed to counsel couples with strategies to improve their marriages and parents. You can visit and subscribe for free https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXIRtQGmA77eHR9ZWHi50Cw for marriage and parenting and life enrichment videos.
 
 
My new God’s Near devotional book of poetic prayer prose will soon be available. The cover design is complete. See a sneak preview below. Final text editing is sooooo much work. Several times I’ve been tempted to quit, but then an impetus (can only be God’sgrace) keeps me at it. I pray God’s Near will heighten readers love for God and create even deeper connection with Him as they cope with this troubled, chaotic world. You can check out all my books at my amazon author page: http://www.amazon.com/Judith-Rolfs/e/B001KI0KLU
 
HAPPY FALL!!!
 
“So don’t hide your light! Let it shine brightly before others so they may see your good deeds and glorify your father who is in heaven.” Matthew 5:16

Remembering...

 Do we honor them enough?

 
I’ve always been in awe of those who serve our country in the military. What an incredible measure of courage and selflessness to sacrifice one’s life fighting death-defying battles on behalf of others.
 

I also think of what it takes to be married to such a person or one of their children wondering if this is the day a beloved spouse or parent doesn’t return home... We have family members and friends married to these heroes.
 
Words are inadequate to describe the debt we owe, the reverence they deserve. Jesus knows because, fully God, He became fully man and sacrificed His life for us enduring a tortuous death.
 
The police who have lost their lives defending us should be honored also. By the way, the idea of defunding the police must have come from the pit of hell. Who wants to turn our neighborhoods over to thugs and drug addicts? It’s truly one of the most ridiculous ideas I’ve heard. We are so grateful to have soldiers and policemen willing to protect us and uphold law and order.
 
Wondering if our children fully understand the sacrifice of these lives for others. What a sacred gift!  Memorial Day weekend is a great time to have a conversation with adult sons and daughters and grandchildren about why we honor these men and women.

May our flag always fly over our LAND OF THE FREE BECAUSE OF THE BRAVE.
Galatians 5: 1 "It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm then, and do not let yourself be burdened again by a yoke of slavery."

WRITING AND SPEAKING UPDATE:
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Happy Day-After Mother's Day!

 The Fatherhoood of God is great and glorious, but around Mother’s Day I love to contemplate Mary, the mother of Jesus.

I have questions I want to ask her. Like Jesus’ first thirty years with you, Mary, what were they like? Was it ever boring washing His dishes, cleaning His clothes as a young child, the routine of life with the Son of God? How special was it?

When He matured did He still live at home? I assume so. Did you pray for Him, as I do for my grown sons and daughters?

 

Did you ponder, as I sometimes did with my two sons and two daughters, what details would unfold in the future or were you too busy caught up in the dailies to give much thought to what came next?

 

Finding the right balance between training and encouragement – was this a challenge for you Mary, as it was for me? Did Jesus ever become unruly, silly? I imagine Him being strong-willed and very articulate.

 

I didn’t raise the Son of God, but I’ve had the privilege of being a mom for over fifty years and what an adventure it’s been! When I meet moms with kids in the grocery store I often tell them to enjoy every minute of this fleeting time of hands-on parenting. I don’t tell them the big secret I never knew when I had four kids. I’m not sure young moms are ready to hear it yet. Mothering never ends.  

 

In those early years it didn’t occur to me I’d still have a modeling and prayer role to play in my children’s lives when they were grown. They still keep watching me.

 

My humble privilege is to pray extensively for our adult children, seven grandchildren and three greats.  I know prayer has supernatural power releasing intensified activity of God in their lives. My continual mothering through prayer is intangible, invisible and DAILY wherever their location. Through prayer I feel connected even when our children live a thousand miles away. 

 

I pray God’s peace, protection and guidance for them in this often-turbulent world. 

My parenting wasn’t perfect, as I expect Mary’s was, but I’m counting on my prayers to redeem mistakes.  What a lifelong blessing it is to pray for our children! James 5:16 … The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous (wo)man availeth much.

 

MY MOTHER’S DAY GIFT TO YOU DEAR READERS:

It’s my great pleasure to make available FREE through amazon this e-book for you.

*May 18^th Jesus Time, Love Notes of Wonder & Worship – a prayer devotional that may set the tone for your personal prayers. It can be read on any computer, smart phone, Ipad, etc. FREE only on the day listed so check the date

 

WRITING UPDATE

 

FOR FUN WITH KIDS OF ALL AGES THIS SUMMER DON’T MISS MY NEW BOOK: Parent’s Treasurebox of Ideas great present for moms to give themselves. Packed with special activities for fun times and bonding with your children.

 

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I’M SO EXCITED THAT THE NEW TOMMY SMURLEE/GRELLA WELLER ADVENTURE WAS JUST RELEASED IN TIME FOR SUMMER READING. My first readers have been adults who like the mystery fantasy also! 

 

LATEST IN THE POPULAR TOMMY SMURLEE AND GRELLA WELLER MYSTERY, FANTASY AND ADVENTURE SERIES

Tommy, Grella, and friends journey to the amazing Dunster's Camp of Mystery and Inventions for fun, intrigue, and danger. Campers compete to create inventions and solve the Mystery of the Silver Shells as battles of good against evil rage around them. 

 

Unique activities encourage creativity and imagination and fill each day with wonder! Camp counselors, Spindlesticks, Wishkowski and Zeller direct wild activities such as Kadiddles, Slap/Dash and Dreamology. 

 

HERE’S WHAT CHILDREN SAY ABOUT The Adventures of Tommy Smurlee: 

“It’s great! A fast-moving, fun book.” Drew, age13 

“I read it twice in one week and many times since." Steve, age 14.

“Mom read Tommy Smurlee aloud to me. I loved it!” Daniel, age 8 

“I couldn’t stop reading. Grella is my favorite character." Christine, 12

Other Tommy Smurlee books: Tommy Smurlee and Dunster's Camp of Mystery and Adventures and Tommy Smurlee and the Missing Statue. 

 

The author, Dr. Judith Rolfs, a marriage and family counselor, specializes in the development of children's creativity and providing valuable life lessons about character and values that her readers absorb through the Silver Team's adventures. jwrolfs@gmail.com

 

The Adventures of Tommy Smurlee is fun and fantasy at its best! 

FOR AGES 8 THRU ADULT

Available now on Amazon 

Coming soon to local bookstores like Angelus Shop

 

Mother's Day 

To God be the glory!

Our grandchildren Joshua and Anna's Confirmation: